I left this weekend without really describing my plan. So, here it is. At the end of this coming week I’ll be moving into Darren‘s house. It’s a big place, which is good. It may be a little strange, considering he’s married, but I think it will work for a short while. Apparently they’re cool with me staying there for a while (of course–whatever I pay in rent will cover close, if not all, of their monthly mortgage payment) as I look for a roommate with whom I can live somewhat closer to my place of employment. (The goal there is to cut my commute in half.)
Why am I doing this? I have not found a place in northern New Jersey where I want to live that is also affordable. Why don’t I just “suck up and deal?” There are some aspects of my life on which I am willing to compromise. (In fact, I believe I’ve made “Compromising” into a higher art.) Comfortability at home is not one of those aspects I will compromise.
Many people don’t seem to understand me when it comes to this. They believe that it is crazy to drive as much as I do. At this point in my life, the benefits of living in a nice area outweigh the annoyances of a three hour drive every day, even if I only get to spend a small amount of time in the area that I enjoy so much. Also, moving to north Jersey doesn’t necessarily mean I’d be spending any more time at home than I do now, but it does mean less time in a place where I like to be.
Even if I am “wrong” and “unsensible” and “unreasonable,” it is the decision I am making at this point, for this moment. And I am happy with it.
it kind of scares me that you are having so many problems living in No. NJ…when that is where I plan on living when i graduate in 2 years… but, at least i already have a roommate lined up. is it that it is too expensive in Norh Jersey, too skanky, or nothing you liked?
The plan sounds ok Spike, thanks Darren!! It’s nice to have such a generous friend and its good for you to have a buffer (and good company to boot!)
PS– It’s really important not to make a mistake and move somewhere you won’t be happy — so be fine with it, you’re doing whats right for you.
Sounds like a good plan. And no, Spike…your “rent” would not even cover a quarter of the mortgage. 🙂
yes… i too laughed at that mortgage comment 🙂
i was like… how on earth could darren’s mortgage be 1/3 my new rent…. that would be crazy!
OK, forget about that rent/mortgage comment… I see your point… 🙂
Also…I don’t think anyone has been saying you were unreasonable. I think many people encouraged you to live where you WANT to live, not where your job necessitates that you live….
No one here has been saying I’m unreasonable. All of my friends have been very supportive, and I appreciate it very much.
of course the people at work want you to live closer… that way they can make you work more.
The girl’s got a point….:)
Darren, it’s nice to hear that you are letting Spike stay at your place. Now you have good slave labor, since Spike works hard. Spike, do you like whips??? He He
whoa. I think this conversation just took a very strange turn….
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I, ummm…..I have to go now……